A Note For Families

To Our Brave and Beautiful Loss Families,

I am so deeply sorry that you are here. I am so sorry you have to endure a life without your precious baby (or babies).

I wish none of us knew this pain — but we do. We carry it with you, and we see you.

We know what it feels like when the world keeps moving, even though everything has stopped for us.
We know the sting when people say the wrong things — or nothing at all.
We know how isolating it can feel when others don’t understand how to help, or when some quietly step away because our grief makes them uncomfortable (please know, that has nothing to do with you).

We know the weight loss places on relationships and marriages — the strain it can bring, but also the unexpected strength that can grow from walking through this together.
We know about the guilt and the shame that sometimes sneak in, and we want you to hear this clearly: those feelings are normal, and you are not alone in them.
We know how heavy it feels to share your story — when you don’t want to burden anyone, or you don’t know how to find the words.

And we also know that this pain cannot be “fixed.” But you don’t have to carry it alone. Here, you’ll find support for you, your partner, your children, and your family as you navigate the long, tender path of grief and healing.

With love and solidarity,
Vallen & Evelyn James & Company 💛

Resources by Category

For Parents

Scripts for Telling Others About Your Baby
Find compassionate words when you can’t find your own.
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Parenting After Loss Guide
Practical ways to care for yourself and your living children during grief.
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Self-Care & Healing Tools
Gentle reminders, rituals, and grounding practices for the hardest days.
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For Siblings

Scripts for Talking With Children
Gentle, age-appropriate words to help siblings understand and grieve.
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Activities for Children
Healing activities and rituals to help kids remember their baby sibling.
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Memory-Making With Siblings
Practical ideas for involving children in gentle remembrance: Helps siblings feel connected and included.
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For Friends & Other Family

What to Say (and Not Say) After Baby Loss
Scripts and examples to help friends and extended family avoid unhelpful clichés and instead offer words that comfort, validate, and support.
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How to Show Up for the Long Haul
Practical ideas for offering continued support months and years later — remembering anniversaries, checking in gently, and being consistent when the crowd fades.
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Small Gestures That Make a Big Difference
A guide to meaningful, simple ways friends and relatives can show love: meals, childcare, cards, remembrance gifts, or just sitting in quiet presence.
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BIPOC Family Resources

Understanding the Unique Challenges BIPOC Families Face After Baby Loss
Explores the systemic inequities that shape BIPOC families’ experiences of loss and grief, while offering pathways to culturally safe care and honoring traditions that support healing.
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Advocating for Yourself in Healthcare After Baby Loss Provides BIPOC families with practical advocacy tools — from scripts to rights awareness — to ensure their voices are respected and their care is equitable after loss.
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Building Community & Healing Spaces for BIPOC Families After Loss
Guides families in finding culturally affirming grief communities, faith traditions, and rituals that honor both their baby and their identity, reducing isolation in grief.
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Best Practices for Supporting BIPOC Families After Baby Loss (For Providers)

Equips healthcare providers and organizations with evidence-based strategies — including trauma-informed care, bias training, and honoring cultural rituals — to better support BIPOC families through loss.
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For Moms & Birthing Persons

Caring for Your Body After Loss
Gentle guidance for postpartum healing after loss: lactation, hormones, sleep, rest, and nutrition. Written with compassion for the unique physical and emotional needs of grieving mothers.
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Navigating Triggers and Everyday Life
A guide to handling moments that sting — baby showers, social media, holidays, and returning to routines. Includes grounding practices and scripts for setting boundaries.
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Pregnancy After Loss: Hope and Fear
For those considering or experiencing pregnancy after loss. Validates mixed emotions, offers tips for managing anxiety, and tools for connecting with a new baby while honoring the one who died.
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For Military Families

Pregnancy Loss in Military Life
Guides for navigating deployment, relocation, and TRICARE support.
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Building Support Networks
Practical tools for connection and healing during isolation.
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Coping as a Couple During Deployment or Separation
A resource for navigating grief together when one partner is deployed or away. Includes communication tips, ways to feel connected across distance, and reminders for both partners.
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For Co-Workers

What to Say When a Co-Worker’s Baby Dies
Practical scripts for the workplace — short, compassionate things you can say (and what not to say) to avoid silence, clichés, or awkwardness.
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Supporting a Co-Worker Returning to Work
A guide for how to ease their transition back into the workplace: respecting boundaries, avoiding gossip, offering flexibility, and checking in gently.
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Creating a Compassionate Workplace Culture
Tips for teams and managers to support grieving employees — acknowledging anniversaries, offering time off when needed, and modeling empathy in the workplace.
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LGBTQIA+ Resources

Supporting LGBTQIA+ Families Through Baby Loss A validating guide for LGBTQIA+ parents navigating grief after baby loss, addressing unique challenges like invisibility, stigma, and minority stress, while offering inclusive coping tools, rituals, and affirming support.
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Creating Inclusive Support Circles for LGBTQIA+ Families After Loss
Practical steps to help LGBTQIA+ families build safe, affirming communities of care after loss — including how to find inclusive groups, advocate for support, and nurture trusted “circles of care” that last beyond the early weeks of grief.
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Rituals & Legacy Building for LGBTQIA+ Families After Loss
Simple, meaningful rituals and legacy projects — from name ceremonies to memory gardens — that help LGBTQIA+ families honor their baby’s life while affirming the beauty and validity of their love story.
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For Dads & Partners

Scripts & Support for Dads
Created just for fathers, partners, and co-parents who are grieving.
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Honoring Grief Together
Simple ways to connect as a couple and process loss in different ways.
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When Your Grief Looks Different
A guide to help dads and partners understand that their grief may not look like their partner’s — and that’s okay.
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For Grandparents

Grieving as a Grandparent
Losing a grandchild is a double heartbreak — grieving your grandbaby while watching your own child suffer. This guide offers gentle validation and ways to honor both griefs without minimizing either.
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Supporting Your Child After Baby Loss
Practical ways grandparents can support their adult child: how to listen without fixing, when to step in with practical help, and how to respect boundaries while still being present.
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Honoring Your Grandbaby’s Memory
Simple, meaningful rituals grandparents can do — like planting a tree, lighting a candle, or creating a keepsake — to ensure their grandbaby is remembered and cherished.
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Other Important Topics

Navigating Holidays & Special Dates After Loss
Guidance for anniversaries, birthdays, due dates, and holidays — including rituals, scripts, and self-care strategies for days that feel impossible.
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Pregnancy After Loss: What Families Need to Know
Addresses the unique mix of hope, fear, and grief when considering or experiencing pregnancy after loss. Includes coping tools, communication tips, and grounding practices.
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When to Seek Additional Support
A guide to recognizing signs of complicated grief, trauma, or depression — and how to reach out for counseling, groups, or other professional help without shame.
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Other Resources

We support ALL LOSS here.

This includes; Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Blighted Ovum, Chemical Pregnancy, Incompetent Cervix, Neonatal Loss, Infant Loss, Abortion, Termination For Medical Reasons (TFMR), Missed Miscarriage, Ectopic Pregnancy, Molar Pregnancy and More.

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