One Question That Changes the Care
This blog focuses on the one question that can change support during grief.
The Podcast is Back!
Our podcast is back! We’ve rebranded and are moving more towards a podcast for perinatal professionals to help them prepare, navigate, and reflect on pregnancy and infant loss.
When Compassionate Professionals Don't Know What to Say
Most professionals who support a family through pregnancy or infant loss care deeply. The problem is that many were never actually taught what to say when there is no heartbeat, a miscarriage happens, or a baby dies. When compassionate professionals do not know what to say, fear and discomfort can lead to silence, clichés, overexplaining, or words a grieving family remembers forever. This article offers a different way forward: practical, trauma informed communication that helps nurses, doulas, birth workers, and perinatal professionals stay present when families need them most.
Not a story I share often.. Jennifer's Story
After years of infertility, I finally got pregnant, with triplets. But at 10 weeks, I lost one of them. I carried life and loss at the same time. This story is for every parent who has grieved a baby while still holding onto hope. You’re not alone, and your baby mattered.
Can a Stillborn Baby Be Cremated? What Parents Need to Know About Cremation After Stillbirth
Can a stillborn baby be cremated? Yes, and for many families, it can be a meaningful and flexible way to honor their baby. This guide walks you through cremation options, what to expect, and how to make this decision with support and compassion.
How Can I Become Certified to Support Families Through Pregnancy and Infant Loss?
If you feel called to support families through miscarriage, stillbirth, TFMR, or infant loss, specialized training matters. Here’s how to become certified in pregnancy and infant loss support and what to look for in a trauma-informed program.
What Support Is Available for Families Affected by Stillbirth?
After stillbirth, families are often left navigating grief, postpartum recovery, and life after loss without enough support. This guide walks you through the emotional, physical, and practical resources available so you don’t have to do this alone.
What Happens to Your Body After Stillbirth?
After stillbirth, your body still goes through postpartum recovery, bleeding, hormonal shifts, milk production, and healing, while you are grieving your baby. This guide walks you through what to expect physically and how to care for your body with compassion and support.
Funeral Homes, Burial, and Cremation After Stillbirth: What Parents Need to Know
Planning a funeral, burial, or cremation after stillbirth is one of the most overwhelming and heartbreaking experiences a parent can face. In the middle of grief, shock, and physical postpartum recovery, families are often asked to make deeply personal decisions they were never prepared for. This guide gently walks you through your options, from funeral homes and memorial services to burial, cremation, and taking your baby home, so you can make informed, supported choices that honor your baby in a way that feels right for you.
How Do You Support a Mom After Stillbirth?
Learn how to support a mother after stillbirth with compassionate, trauma-informed guidance. Practical tips for family, friends, and professionals.
What are the signs of stillbirth?
What are the signs of a stillbirth? This guide shares evidence-based information on warning signs, when to seek immediate care, and how to trust your instincts during pregnancy.
What is the Main Cause of Stillbirth?
Understanding the causes of stillbirth is important not only for grieving families but also for healthcare professionals working to improve prevention and care.
What to Say in a Card When Someone Loses a Baby
Writing a sympathy card after someone loses a baby can feel incredibly difficult.
You might stare at the blank page wondering how any words could possibly be enough.
Many people avoid sending a card because they are afraid of saying the wrong thing.
But for grieving parents, silence can feel even heavier.
A card does not need to be perfect.
How to Support Someone Who Has Lost a Baby?
Supporting someone after miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant loss does not require perfect words. It requires compassion, presence, and the willingness to stay.
How Do I Support My Patient Who Just Lost a Baby
When a patient loses a baby through miscarriage or stillbirth perinatal professionals are often left asking the same question How do I support them without causing harm This evidence based guide offers practical compassionate answers for doulas nurses midwives therapists and providers.
What to Say to Someone After Pregnancy or Infant Loss
Grief does not follow a schedule. It does not move in neat stages, and it does not end because enough time has passed. After pregnancy or infant loss, grief lives in the body, the heart, and the identity of a parent. Research shows there is no evidence-based timeline for grief—and that pressure to “move on” can actually increase suffering. In this piece, we explore what grief really looks like, why it isn’t linear, and how healing happens not through forgetting, but through integration, support, and compassion.
You Are Worth All of It: Grief, Boundaries & Reclaiming Yourself After Loss
In this episode of the Pregnancy Loss and Motherhood podcast, Melissa Crook shares her journey of healing and self-discovery after experiencing a miscarriage and navigating the complexities of motherhood. She emphasizes the importance of prioritizing self-care, understanding grief, and breaking free from codependency. Melissa provides practical steps for women to embrace their emotions, set boundaries, and recognize self-abandonment in their daily lives. Through her framework, she encourages women to acknowledge their worth and make choices that align with their true selves.
Rituals for the Worn-Out Caregiver: Nurturing Yourself with Intentional Self-Care
As caregivers, birthworkers, and mothers, we pour so much into others that we often forget to pour back into ourselves. In this post, I share my favorite self-care rituals and tools—from warm baths to ice rollers and red light masks—and how building intentional rituals around these small practices can become a source of healing, calm, and reconnection. Rooted in evidence-based research and lived experience, this is your reminder that self-care isn’t selfish—it’s survival.
What Is a Bereavement Doula? And Why Every Loss Family Deserves One
Most people don’t learn about bereavement doulas until they’re already in the depths of grief. In this post, I’m breaking down what a bereavement doula is, what they really do, and why they’re a lifeline for families experiencing miscarriage, stillbirth, and other forms of perinatal loss. Whether you're grieving or called to support others, this is the heartwork that changes lives. Let’s shift the way we support families through pregnancy and infant loss — with presence, compassion, and truth.