Children grieve pregnancy and infant loss, too, but most adults are never taught how to help them through it.

When a baby dies, the whole family grieves, including the children.

Siblings may not fully understand what happened, but they often feel the shift in the home. They notice the sadness. They hear the quiet. They may ask hard questions, act out, become clingy, seem unaffected, or move in and out of grief in ways adults do not always expect.

And for grieving parents, this can feel impossible.

How do you explain miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant loss to a child when you are still trying to survive it yourself?

How do you answer questions like:

“Where is the baby?”
“Did I do something wrong?”
“Will you die too?”
“Can we still talk about the baby?”
“Why is everyone so sad?”

This kit helps you find the words.

The How to Support Siblings After Pregnancy Loss Kit is a trauma-informed digital resource created to help parents, caregivers, doulas, birth workers, therapists, nurses, and perinatal professionals support living children after pregnancy or infant loss.

Inside, you’ll find simple scripts, parent guidance, grief-informed language, and meaningful activities that help children feel safe, included, reassured, and connected.

This resource is not about having the perfect conversation.

It is about helping children feel less confused, less alone, and less responsible while giving adults a gentle path forward during one of the hardest seasons of family life.

This Kit Helps With

Explaining pregnancy loss, stillbirth, miscarriage, TFMR, neonatal loss, or infant loss in age-appropriate language

Helping children understand that the baby died without using confusing or frightening phrases

Reassuring siblings that the loss was not their fault

Supporting big emotions like sadness, anger, fear, jealousy, confusion, or numbness

Helping children ask questions and process grief over time

Creating remembrance rituals and memory-making activities

Supporting parents who are grieving while still parenting living children

Helping doulas and providers guide families with more confidence and compassion

What’s Included

Scripts for telling siblings the baby died

Age-appropriate language for talking about pregnancy and infant loss

Reassurance scripts for fear, guilt, confusion, and repeated questions

Parent guidance for supporting children while grieving

Memory-making ideas for siblings

Simple grief-support activities families can do together

Guidance for including children in memorials, remembrance, or goodbye rituals

Trauma-informed tips for doulas, birth workers, and providers supporting grieving families

Gentle language that can be adapted to your family, beliefs, culture, and situation

Who This Is For

This digital support kit is for:

Bereaved parents with living children

Families navigating miscarriage, stillbirth, TFMR, neonatal loss, or infant loss

Doulas and birth workers supporting loss families

Bereavement doulas

Postpartum doulas

Nurses, social workers, therapists, and perinatal professionals

Grandparents or caregivers helping children understand a baby’s death

Anyone who wants to support a grieving child with honesty, compassion, and care

Why This Resource Matters

Children do not need adults to pretend everything is okay.

They need clear words.
They need emotional safety.
They need reassurance.
They need permission to ask questions.
They need to know the baby mattered.
They need to know they did nothing wrong.
They need to know their family is still there.

This kit gives adults a place to begin.

Digital Product Note

This is a digital resource. No physical item will be shipped.

After purchase, you will receive access to the downloadable sibling support kit. You can use it personally, print it for your own family, or use it as a professional reference when supporting clients and families.