What to Say to Someone After Pregnancy or Infant Loss
Grief does not follow a schedule. It does not move in neat stages, and it does not end because enough time has passed. After pregnancy or infant loss, grief lives in the body, the heart, and the identity of a parent. Research shows there is no evidence-based timeline for grief—and that pressure to “move on” can actually increase suffering. In this piece, we explore what grief really looks like, why it isn’t linear, and how healing happens not through forgetting, but through integration, support, and compassion.
10 Things Professionals Think Help Loss Families… But Don’t
Let me be honest—no one ever prepared me for the silence.
Not the silence in the room after my daughter was born still…
Not the silence from my providers after I left the hospital…
And definitely not the silence in the grief training that never came.
Now, as a pregnancy loss educator and bereaved mother, I teach professionals what I wish someone had taught the people who cared for me.
Too often, well-meaning doulas, nurses, and therapists say or do things they believe are comforting—but they actually deepen the trauma.
The Silent Struggle – Unmasking the Realities of Perinatal Loss
Perinatal loss—whether through miscarriage, stillbirth, or neonatal death—is something we don’t talk about enough. Yes, it’s gaining more awareness, thanks to incredible nonprofits and families doing amazing work, but silence still lingers around this kind of loss.
And that silence? It doesn’t ease pain; it deepens it. Society often expects grieving parents to move on quickly, but how do we move on from losing a piece of our hearts? From losing a whole future we envisioned for months? If you're into mindset work, you know how powerful visualization is—we create these lives in our minds, and when they’re taken from us, it leaves a massive hole.
So today, let’s break the silence.
Changing the Landscape of Perinatal Loss: Creating a Standard of Care
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